Home for the Holidays?

Home for the Holidays?

Not long ago, the word “home” required little explanation.  It was a word that described the place where you grew up, the place where you returned for the holidays, the place that conjured up warm memories of childhood and family.  These days, however, that word has gotten a bit more difficult to define.

In the past, people would live and die in the same town where they were born. Even when putting down roots of their own, they would not go far. The home where you were born continued to be the nucleus of the family long after you grew up and set up a household of your own.  You would return there to see the folks and celebrate special occasions.  That was, of course, before all the folks decided to retire to Florida or to some other pensioner’s paradise.

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Two Christmases

Two ChristmasesThis post goes out to divorced parents everywhere who live with more than their fair share of parental guilt.

As divorced parents, we worry about how our divorce will affect our children.  Will they be treated differently by their peers?  Will they act out?  Will they be overcome with sadness leading them down a path of destructive behavior?

Even as our children grow into adulthood, the guilt persists.  Family events can be a bit complicated.  Both my former spouse and I have remarried.  Sometimes there are just too many parents and stepparents in one place at one time.  Though it is great that we all get along, I always wonder if it is awkward for my children.

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